There was a time when I felt like I was the Queen of first dates that rarely turned into a second date. It was happening so often that I was beginning to develop a serious complex. Thoughts of what might be wrong with me seemed commonplace and I actually avoided some dates simply because I didn’t want to feel that tinge of rejection I just knew was coming.
Perhaps a little life lesson in How to Get a Second Date would be beneficial to some who might not be able to see what’s happening to cause their lack of returns.
Some key elements I found while doing a search on this very topic are:
- Perhaps you’re going out with the wrong ‘type’ of person
- When conversing, do you ask about them?
- Do you listen or do you carry the entire conversation?
- Are you sending out the wrong or negative signals?
- Are you showing signs of excess emotional baggage in tow?
- Do you talk about ex’s too much?
What are some of the reasons you turn down the offer of a second date?
Should she be trusted?
A friend of mine has brought a situation to my attention (actually I’ve witnessed some of the behavior firsthand) and rather than offering up a biased opinion, I thought I might be best to post the issue here and see what others have to say…
John* is dating, actually engaged to Tammy* - both are divorced, both have a child from those marriages. Tammy’s child lives with she and John while John’s child lives out of state with her mother. Tammy claims her actions are stemming from wanting to keep peace between she and the child’s father - as well as other actions stemming from her current work conditions.
I’ve been around Tammy when she would be making phone calls and able to talk one second - then receive a call from ‘her boss’ that she’d have to take to another room privately.
Tammy seems to make up lame excuses to leave John - saying she’ll be gone a half an hour and it somehow turns into 2 1/2 hours - of course there are several excuses for the tardiness.
Tammy claims to suffer from anxiety and depression - which seems to be the reason for her ‘lack of trust’ in John - but John is always exactly where Tammy knows he will be.
Tammy has been engaged to John for 6 months and never seemed to have a problem with his smoking early on - suddenly she claims it’s his ’smoking’ that keeps her from wanting to ‘makeout’ with him.
That’s just the tip of the iceberg - but based on those examples, doesn’t it seem that something is definately fishy in Denmark?
If John and Tammy were your friends, what advice if any would you offer up?
This is a real situation however *names have been changed to protect the innocent.
Fun Tip For The Dating Don Juan
Keeping track of all your dates is quite taxing and, er, tricky especially if you’ve been stealthily going on a multi-dating spree.
I came across a cool tip to help you keep track of the person you’ve been flirting with talking to and the things you’ve been talking about. Pretty handy for situations that may just get you into trouble, me thinks. LOL. ;)
“With all those chicks in your life, it’s so easy to text the wrong one. You’ll have quite a lot of explaining to do if Rita receives that message meant for Mina. Luckily, the Messaging app shows the last girl who texted, so you’ll know you’re actually texting Carla.” — The Smart PDA, The Treo Messaging Client: A Lover’s Lifesaver
There you go. If you’re one of them people who are upwardly mobile, this is one mobile phone feature that will give you an edge as you pursue your multi-dating endeavour. Teehee. It’s available on a Treo.
This messaging app can also be used by loyal folk, according to Rico Mossesgeld, who also writes for a b5media Business blog, Contract Worker. He notes, “She means everything to you, and the last thing you’d want to happen is forget what you’ve been talking about. Since all your messages are helpfully listed, you’ll know what lovey-dovey messages you’ve been exchanging literally a month ago.”
Who says that technology can’t be romantic? LOL. Cool, eh? ;)
And, oh, before I forget — be sure to let us know if you get to try this thing out. Or if you have a story or two to share about a texting blunder. Let’s just get a laugh out of it and chalk it up to experience! Teehee. :)